Over the last few weeks, we’ve laid out the first step of cross-cultural management: acceptance.
Accepting another’s culture, values, and norms as different than your own, while foregoing judgment, accepting ambiguity, tolerating actively, and explaining yourself is the best way to get your toes wet in a new culture.
But we have yet to talk about wading into the shallows of the culture in the form of adapting.
If you dig in your heels at acceptance, then your degree of cross-cultural integration is limited.
Doing so will certainly help you blend into your host culture, particularly as a manager; however, at some point, you will find that you must adapt to some aspects of the new culture, or you’ll be forever an outsider.
As the German manager did in his Swiss company, taking your integration a step further by altering your behavior will make the culture accept you.
This is called adapting.
First of all, how is adapting different than adopting?
Adapting involves changing your behavior but not your values.
For instance, you are being hosted by a country that bows in greeting as opposed to shaking hands.
As a courtesy, you adapt to this behavior. You bow.
But no doubt, your values haven’t changed; shaking hands is still your preferred greeting based upon your values.
Working across cultures, you might choose to accept and adapt those behaviors whose values are valid and do not impose on your own.
After all, a change in values involves a significant life-altering transformation. More often than not, that takes time.
While such a transformation may come, depending upon how long you remain in your host country and how impacted you are by their culture, until that impact happens, small adaptions will show your hosts that you respect their culture and are making an attempt to integrate where you can.
The bottom line when deciding what to adapt to and what to simply accept is drawn by the personal cost to you versus the value behavioral changes may add to your life in this new culture and your success as a manager.
Does adhering to the culture’s dress code come at a significant cost to you? Does the value of “fitting in” outweigh whatever cost that may be?
Those values and norms which are not in direct contradiction to your own culture’s should be easy enough to adapt and should be what you actively implement first.
Although the behavior may feel unfamiliar (greeting your French colleague by a kiss on both cheeks, for instance), after normal processing, such behaviors will feel more or less natural.
In fact, give it time, and you may not even notice you’ve adapted to another culture.
Next week, we’ll discuss the type of adaptions that you will notice and how to get over that discomfort. Stay tuned.