As a foreigner in another culture, we are caged monkeys in a zoo.
This is a common theme in my blog and particularly in my book, I am the Monkey.
As monkeys in the zoo, we look outside our habitats and wonder at the strange animals called “humans” – i.e. the local people whose culture we’re living in.
Why are they staring at us all the live-long day?
The noises they make are odd. The fur they wear is multicolored. Their actions are diabolical.
But of all the humans who gather around our cage, there is one that we can identify with: the Zookeeper.
How Zookeepers Behave
Unlike the human spectators who throw peanuts at you, the zookeeper gives you real food.
More than that, she knows when you’re hungry.
Instead of making strange noises and pulling faces at you, she approaches you normally, she moves naturally.
As a monkey, you don’t fear the Zookeeper, because the Zookeeper doesn’t cause confusion.
Though she is not a monkey, she understands monkeys, and you understand her.
This is the type of person you need when integrating into a foreign culture: a local who understands you and who you understand too.
You may not speak the same mother tongue, but you are still able to communicate well enough to get by.
Cultural Food
The Zookeeper can feed you the cultural food you need to help understand their culture.
Good zookeepers understand both cultures well enough to hash out any differences and help explain their own culture in a way to which you can relate.
Knowing both monkeys and humans allows the Zookeeper to build bridges, providing explanations for behaviors and mental models to aid understanding.
Zookeepers can tell the humans, “You’re making too much noise and scaring the monkeys.”
They can tell the monkeys, “The humans don’t mean to alarm you; they’re just excited to meet you.”
They can tell the humans, “Don’t feed them; they just ate.”
They can tell the monkeys, “I know you’re not hungry but feeding guests is part of the human culture.”
Through understanding and effective communication, the Zookeeper is the intermediary between the two worlds, aiding both the monkey’s integration and the humans’ ability to help this foreigner integrate.
Next week, we’ll look at an example of a genuine zookeeper in action.