The process of integrating into a new culture has its ups and downs.
We talked last week about the U-curve – that theoretical interation period that comes in four clean stages: 1) Honeymoon, 2) Crisis, 3) Recovery, and 4) Adjustment.
While many do experience these four stages when moving to a new country, they often aren’t as clear-cut as the chart would suggest.
Instead, they might look more like this:
This is what Marie, an expat culture blogger, drew to represent her cross-cultural experience.
“Even when I was completely in love with my host country, there were tough times. It was a lot like raising children, in fact: I love my kids more than life itself, but there are plenty of days when I’m convinced I’ll never get the hang of this parenting thing. And then the sun comes out again, and life is good.”
Like Marie, you might feel a true love for your host country, but you’ll most certainly experience failures and setbacks.
But, don’t worry, the sun will come out again.
Factors That Impact Integration
There is no time table for cross-cultural integration.
The process may tie you up in knots, and it won’t happen on a predictable schedule.
And that’s because many factors come into play that can be out of your control.
These factors include but are not limited to:
- Degree of social support available
- Extent of differences between the two cultures
- Your experience with cross-cultural relations
- Your prep work
- Your personality
- Your mentality and expectations about the move
These are just a few factors that play into the process of cross-cultural integration.
Some are within your ability to control; others are not.
Adapt at Your Own Pace
Each person adapts at their own pace, and the process is unpredictable.
While you will definitely have moments of happiness and bliss in your new culture, you’ll also face challenges you’ve never faced before which may fill you with dread and uncertainty.
Speaking another language. Making foreign friends. Adapting to social norms.
You will see progress, but sometimes, you’ll feel stalled.
This will make you frustrated and even depressed.
There’s no avoiding the hurdles altogether; they’re there, and you will have to find the will to jump them.
So, when faced with them, take a breath of African fatalism:
Let it happen, and drink strong tea.
Remember that this process is normal, and in a couple of years, if all goes according to plan, you’ll feel right at home in your new home.
And those hurdles that seemed like abrupt speed bumps at the time will look like nothing more than rumble strips in your rearview.