When working across cultures, stress develops from inconsistencies in values, behaviors, and norms.
Anxiety accompanies culture shock and the changes in behavior required.
Do you handle stress and anxiety well? Then the transition of adapting to your new culture will happen faster and smoother than otherwise.
If you don’t, the next couple posts will show you how to ease the process.
Why Asking “Why?” is Important
A lack of understanding leads to a lack of acceptance.
Without understanding and acceptance, adapting to things you find random or illogical is next to impossible.
That’s why learning the “why” of behavior clears the way for adaption.
Consider you’re the monkey in the zoo. People are chucking peanuts at you, and you have no idea why.
Your handler feeds you often enough, and you’re not hungry. And yet, these humans are surrounding your home and lobbing peanuts at your feet.
“Seems irrational,” you think. “I have all the food I need. Why are these humans throwing more?”
Then again, you might try to see it from the human perspective by asking, “Why?”
Taking a seat to observe the humans, you – the monkey – try to work out the reasoning behind their behavior.
“Hmmm…” you think, “maybe they aren’t throwing peanuts to feed me; maybe they’re throwing them to observe me. I must be boring them by sleeping. They’re trying to encourage me to engage with them.”
As the monkey, through curiosity, you start to understand the rationale of the human; you understand that not all that is unfamiliar is irrational.
Survival Requires Rational Action
Humans are conditioned to act rationally within their environment and time period in order to survive.
Physicist D. Hillis writes in Cause and Effect:
“We like to organize events into chains of cause and effects that explain the consequences of our actions. […] This makes sense from an evolutionary standpoint. The ultimate job of our nervous system is to make actionable decisions, and predicting the consequences of those decisions is important to our survival.”
Since the dawn of time, human beings have been rationalizing.
Society, etiquette, war.
All of these things developed out of some form of rationale or logic.
They were learned.
The question we’ll be asking is how does cultural rationale develop?
And answering that question – and those that follow – starts with curiosity and observation. We’ll talk about that more next week.