Eye Contact & Culture: A Guide to Understanding Non-Verbal Communication, Part II

How important is non-verbal communication?

It turns out VERY.

A World Economic Forum article explains that non-verbal cues account for a staggering 65% of all communication

Among these, eye contact holds a unique and powerful role, often associated with honesty and openness.

A 2006 study found that not only does non-verbal behavior, such as eye contact, influence how truthful we perceive a message to be, but the truthfulness of the message also affects the amount of eye contact the messenger provides.

Understanding the cultural nuances of eye contact can significantly impact our interactions.

For instance, in professional settings, maintaining appropriate eye contact can enhance credibility and foster trust.

Last week, we discussed differences in eye contact norms between the East and the West.

This week, we’ll look at other cultures worldwide and their non-verbal communication norms.

Middle Eastern Cultures: Varied Interpretations

In Middle Eastern cultures, the rules around eye contact can be complex and context-dependent.

In many Arab countries, direct eye contact between individuals of the same gender is a sign of honesty and straightforwardness. 

However, eye contact between men and women who are not closely related can be considered inappropriate and disrespectful due to cultural and religious norms.

For example, in Saudi Arabia, men and women typically avoid direct eye contact in public spaces to adhere to social conventions regarding modesty and propriety. 

A study on Arab cultural communication patterns reads:

“Nonverbal communication in Arab cultural contexts can be characterized by indirect eye contact in certain contexts, expressive body language, closeness between individuals, and relaxed attitudes toward time (Feghali, 1997). Lowering one’s gaze during face-to-face interactions with the opposite sex or between children and an older adult is considered polite (Feghali, 1997).”

Understanding these nuances is crucial for respectful and effective communication in Middle Eastern contexts.

Latin American Cultures: Expressiveness = Connection

In Latin American cultures, eye contact is often more expressive and emotive. 

People from countries like Mexico, Brazil, and Argentina use eye contact to convey warmth, friendliness, and emotional connection. 

Maintaining eye contact is seen as a way to build rapport and trust, making it an essential component of personal and professional interactions.

However, as in other cultures, there is a balance to be struck.

While eye contact is important, overly intense staring can be perceived as intrusive or aggressive.

According to this research on differences between Anglo and Latino nonverbal communication styles:

“The failure of the Latino to maintain eye contact should not be seen as expressing a lack of self-confidence. In the Latino culture direct, prolonged eye contact means you are challenging the person, that you are angry, or that you have a romantic interest in the person.”

African Cultures: Community = Context

In many African cultures, eye contact practices can vary widely depending on the community and context.

For instance, in some Sub-Saharan African societies, children are taught to lower their gaze when speaking to elders as a sign of respect, similar to East Asian norms

In contrast, in more urbanized settings, direct eye contact may be more common and accepted.

Understanding the cultural differences in eye contact is vital for effective communication and fostering mutual respect. 

By being aware of these norms, individuals can navigate cross-cultural interactions more smoothly, avoiding misunderstandings and building stronger, more respectful relationships.

It’s All About Perspective: Measuring Your Own Culture By Another’s Yardstick

Imagine you’ve been living in your host country for two years. 

By now, you know a lot about its norms and values. You know what behaviors are viewed as “good” and “bad.” You respect these views and have adapted your own cultural behaviors where you can.

At this point, you may have even begun to appreciate certain values and norms in your host culture. And, moreover, you can see your own culture through your host’s cultural lens.

In doing so, you might be noticing some things about your culture that no longer sit right with you.

Let’s take a look.

The Wisdom of Elders

Many African cultures highly value the elders in their communities.

They may sit on councils that govern these communities or even judge disputes in the village. They are respected and believed to be wise.

Being as such, elders are often cared for by younger generations and live in the homes of their children. Outside help to care for them is not the norm.

Societal health in such cultures is represented by the degree to which the elderly are cared for in society.

So, imagine for a moment the idea of a nursing home in such cultures. The concept of abandoning an elder to the care of a stranger would be, without question, taboo.

Due to this difference in perspective, these cultures are shocked by the way Western cultures treat their elderly. They view these values and norms pertaining to the elderly as a sign of an unhealthy culture.

And having been entrenched in their culture, in some cases, you might start seeing your own in the same way.

Take Pride in Being Different, Not in Being “Superior”

Managing people from different cultures requires that you check your cultural ego at the door. If you don’t, it will get in the way of cultural integration.

So, think about other aspects of your culture and how they might be viewed by your host.

Consider values and norms surrounding family, honor, hospitality, wealth-sharing, etc. 

How might your hosts see these the standards you place on each topic in your country?

Be aware that measuring the “success” of a culture is always measured in terms of one’s own values and norms. The culture doing the measuring will always set the standards of measurement thereby being the yardstick by which to be measured (see ethnocentricity).

Knowing your host’s standards might help calibrate a picture of your own culture against their yardstick. 

This is not to say that one way is superior to the other, and it is important to be proud of your own cultural heritage. But considering your host culture’s standards of measurement will help to keep your own ethnocentricity in check.