You are returning home after spending five years living in Ukraine – a country to which you’ve adapted and adopted to a certain degree.
You’ve had to balance your home-grown values with your host country’s; you’ve altered your norms wherever you could in order to integrate properly.
For instance, you don’t smile in public as much anymore. It was drilled into your head that those who smile at strangers in Ukraine are believed to have a screw loose.
And now you’re returning home. Back to the familiar.
Home sweet home.
And you’re still not smiling.
Home is NOT So Sweet
Reverse culture shock is the upset that you feel upon returning to your home country.
When you step off that airplane, everybody is smiling. But your face is stuck in its deadpan of Ukrainian stoicism.
It’s like returning to your childhood bedroom after college – everything comes flooding back to you and, yet, feels distant and detached.
After all, it’s all familiar, from the language to the people to the foods and the streets.
There’s only one problem: everything is the same, but YOU are different.
You are returning from your second home: your host country – a place to which you spent a lot of time and energy adapting.
You learned the language, you learned the history, you learned the religion.
You knew and began to understand the culture.
So, now, upon trying to sleep in your old bed, you’re like Goldilocks.
It just doesn’t feel right.
It may be the case that some things have changed too – new pillows, a scratchy bedspread – and your once-familiar bedroom wasn’t what you were expecting.
You realize your home no longer feels like home.
This complex mix of feelings all contributes to reverse culture shock.
Degrees of Reverse Culture Shock
The U.S. Department of State details some aspects that impact the degree to which those who return from abroad feel reverse culture shock.
Taken from Craig Storti’s book, The Art of Coming Home, the following may affect your experience of this shock:
- Voluntary and expected reentry – whether you voluntarily or involuntarily reenter and/or whether you expected to reenter or did not can impact the degree of shock. Involuntary and unexpected reentry results in greater shock.
- Experience – if you’ve had previous reentry experience from a foreign country, the shock is generally milder.
- Age – older people often have an easier time at reentering due to more experience with general life transitions.
- Extent of differences between the two cultures – the more different your home culture is from your host culture, the more difficult reentry can be.
- Length of time spent in host country – the longer your duration overseas, the harder the return may be, as you will have adapted to your host country to a greater extent.
- Amount and degree of interaction with your host country culture and your home culture during your time abroad – the more time and intimacy with your host culture, the harder it will be to leave; likewise, the more time and the degree to which you’ve interacted with your home culture, the easier it will be to reenter.
- Environment of reentry – supportive and familiar environments make reentry easier. Returning to conflict, instability, or uncertainty will increase the shock, as will the lack of a support system.
Consider these aspects to gauge how difficult it might be to return home. This will help you prepare for the impact.